By Clara Benson
April 27, 2025
I honestly don’t know how to feel about this situation anymore. My boyfriend is convinced that I gave him an STD, and I just don’t know what to do with that information. I’ve been thinking about it nonstop, and the more I think about it, the angrier and more upset I get.
It all started about two weeks ago. I gave him head, nothing more. It was just a one-time thing, no big deal. But now, he’s feeling sick and immediately jumps to the conclusion that I gave him something. It’s frustrating because I’ve never had any symptoms, not even once. The only time I’ve ever had unprotected sex was three years ago, and even then, I didn’t contract anything. I’ve always been careful and haven’t had any issues. But suddenly, I’m the one at fault, and it feels like he’s accusing me without any real reason.
He’s been acting cold and distant lately, which has really strained our relationship. He’s not talking to me like he used to, and it’s like he’s pulling away. I get that he’s scared or worried about being sick, but it’s starting to feel like I’m the one being punished here. I’m the one who’s being accused of something I didn’t do, and it’s really hard to take.
What frustrates me the most is how quickly he jumped to that conclusion. I hate how this whole thing has made me feel like I’m some sort of problem, that I’m the one who caused all of this. I’ve never even had any symptoms, and it just feels ridiculous that he would assume that’s the issue. I feel like I’m being treated like I’m guilty before anything has even been proven.
Now, I’m in this weird place where I know I should get tested for my own peace of mind, but I’m also unsure how to go about it. I’m 18, and while I’m more than willing to take a test to clear things up, I’m not sure how to do it without my parents finding out. I’m not exactly ready for that conversation. It’s not something I’ve ever had to deal with before, and it’s making me feel more isolated in this whole mess.
I don’t know how to fix this. I want to clear things up, but it feels like no matter what I do, it’s just making the situation worse. I’m trying to be patient with him, but the more I think about how he’s treating me, the more upset and frustrated I get. Why did he have to jump straight to me being the one who gave him something? It just feels so unfair.
