April 24, 2025

I used to think that breaking up with someone would be the hardest part of a relationship. But I’ve learned that letting go, truly letting go, is so much harder. The second best decision I ever made was blocking my ex. The first, without a doubt, would have been not getting involved with them in the first place.

It’s been months since I ended things, but it still blows my mind how little they seemed to understand the depth of the hurt they caused. They cheated. Repeatedly. And yet, when I started seeing someone new, they had the audacity to be angry with me. I just don’t get it. How could they be mad when they had no remorse for their actions? In their eyes, it was as if I owed them something for all the pain they put me through.

I remember that last conversation so clearly. They were going on and on about how they were “the best I’d ever have” and how I’d “never find anyone like them again.” The entire speech felt like a twisted attempt to gaslight me into doubting my own worth. It’s as if they thought I would be miserable forever just because they were walking away. But the truth is, that relationship was nothing but misery.

And yet, they still felt entitled to an opinion on who I was dating or how I moved on. I don’t think they realized that their betrayal left scars, and that I wasn’t just healing from their lies—I was also rebuilding my self-esteem, piece by piece. I don’t know why they thought I would be miserable without them, but I’ve found happiness in ways I never expected, and it’s only growing each day.

So yeah, blocking them was one of the best decisions I made. Not because I wanted to be petty, but because I finally realized that the only way to heal was to cut them out of my life entirely. No more texts, no more “just checking in” messages that were really just tests to see if I’d come crawling back. It took a long time for me to feel strong enough to stand my ground and not look back.

I’m proud of where I am today. Proud of how far I’ve come since walking away from that toxic relationship. The future is bright, and this time, I’m going to protect my peace.

Author: Lily Jenkins