y Daniel Hart

April 27, 2025

I’ve been married for a few years now, and not long after we tied the knot, things took a turn for the worse. My wife got hurt, and not long after that, she became ill. It wasn’t something we ever expected, and it’s been a long, painful road since. For a while, we were adjusting, finding ways to make it work, but as time has passed, our intimacy has been gone. It’s not for lack of love; she’s in pain most of the time, and I don’t want to risk hurting her further.

I’ve come to terms with it. The vows I made on our wedding day meant something to me, and I believe in sticking to them. So, I’ve learned to navigate this new reality, even though it’s not easy. There are days when I feel the absence of intimacy acutely, but I try not to let it consume me. I love her, and I’m happy just being with her, even if things have changed.

Recently, however, things have taken an unexpected turn. My wife, in all her kindness, has started suggesting something that I didn’t expect. She feels guilty about the lack of intimacy in our relationship, and she told me she wants me to have sex with other women. She thinks it’s unfair to me, and that I should find someone else to fulfill those desires I’ve been missing out on. At first, I didn’t know how to respond. I told her it wasn’t something I needed to worry about, that I was fine, that I made vows to her, and I would keep them.

But that’s when things got strange.

She started inviting other women into our home, trying to set me up with them. I didn’t know how to react. It felt so out of place. It felt wrong, like I was betraying everything I stood for. She would bring them over, chat for a while, and then leave abruptly, telling me to “enjoy” myself. I didn’t know how to stop her from doing this. I didn’t want to be disrespectful, but the thought of cheating on her made me uncomfortable. I’m not that person. I can’t be. But she keeps insisting, and it leaves me in this awkward position.

To be honest, part of me has been tempted. It’s not something I can easily ignore. It’s human nature, after all. But even though there’s a temptation to go along with what she’s offering, I can’t shake this feeling that it’s not right. I don’t want to cheat. I don’t want to hurt her in any way, even if she says it’s okay. I feel like she’s pushing me into a corner where I don’t want to be.

I don’t understand why she can’t see that. Why does she think this is the right thing to do for me? It doesn’t feel like love to me—it feels like a complicated mess that I don’t know how to navigate. I don’t want to lose her, but I also don’t want to break the vows I made. It’s hard enough as it is.

So, here I am, caught in the middle of conflicting feelings. I don’t know how to stop her from doing this, but I know I have to find a way to make her understand where I’m coming from. I’m loyal to her, and I always will be. But it’s getting harder to stay true to myself when I’m being pulled in so many directions.