By Sofia Ellis

April 27, 2025

I don’t really know what to do anymore. I feel like I’m in a situation that’s so complicated, and I’m scared I’m going to mess it up, no matter what I choose.

I’ve been dating my boyfriend for a while now, but the truth is, I don’t love him anymore. I don’t know when it started, but somewhere along the way, I just fell out of love. We’re still together because he’s such a good guy, and I know he still cares about me deeply. He still looks at me the way he always did, like I’m the most important person in his world. I can see it in his eyes every time we talk, and I just… I don’t feel that same way anymore.

But here’s where it gets even messier—I think I’m starting to fall for my boy best friend. I know, it sounds complicated, and it is. He’s everything I’ve ever wanted. He’s funny, supportive, and honestly, we just click in a way that I’ve never clicked with anyone else before. It feels like we’re on the same wavelength all the time. We can talk for hours, and it feels so natural, like there’s no pressure.

He’s exactly my type, in every sense. But here’s the thing: I’m still with my boyfriend. And even though I’ve fallen out of love, I still care about him. He’s a good person, and I don’t want to hurt him. I don’t want to be the one to break his heart, even though I can feel myself drifting away. And then there’s my best friend. I can’t ignore the way I feel when I’m with him, but I don’t want to make any rash decisions that could hurt someone I care about.

I feel so torn. My heart is kind of in two places at once. One part of me is drawn to my best friend, and the other part is telling me to be loyal to my boyfriend, even if the love isn’t there anymore. I’m stuck in this limbo, and honestly, I don’t know what to do.

I want to be honest with myself, but I also don’t want to hurt anyone. It’s like I’m standing at a crossroads, but I can’t see where either path leads. I just know that the longer I stay in this relationship that isn’t fulfilling, the harder it’s going to be to make any decision.

I guess I’m just really scared of what’s going to happen next. Whatever I do, someone is going to get hurt, and I don’t know how to avoid that. I don’t know if it’s right to stay in a relationship out of guilt, but I also don’t know if it’s right to walk away from someone who still cares so much about me.

I don’t know what to do. I wish there was a clear answer.