Author: Claire Matthews

Date: April 27, 2025

Being pregnant has been one of the most emotional and physically draining experiences of my life. I knew it would be hard, but what I didn’t expect was how complicated things would get between me and my husband when it came to intimacy.

He’s always had a strong sex drive — daily intimacy was just normal for us before. But now, with my body changing and all the fatigue and discomfort that come with pregnancy, I can’t keep up like I used to. Some days I’m just too exhausted or in too much discomfort to even think about sex.

Meanwhile, he’s still…him. Still desiring me, still getting visibly aroused around me, and I just sit there feeling helpless, guilty, and overwhelmed. I hate seeing him frustrated, even though he tries not to make me feel bad about it.

One night, in a moment of desperation, I actually suggested he could find someone else for now—someone who could give him what I physically can’t. I didn’t say it lightly; it broke my heart even thinking about it. But he immediately shot it down. He said he didn’t want anyone else, he just wanted me, no matter how hard it was.

That made me cry even harder. I’m grateful for his loyalty, but I still feel like I’m failing him somehow. I don’t know the right solution. All I can do is hope that once the pregnancy is over, things will fall back into place. I miss how we used to be. I miss feeling like I could meet him where he was. And I hope he can hold on through all of this…because God knows, I’m trying too.