Date: April 20, 2025

Author: Isabelle Harper

I never thought I’d be the type of person to care about appearances. After all, I’ve always considered myself someone who values personality and connection over what someone wears. But, I can’t lie — when I look at my husband, there are moments when I wish he cared a little more about how he presents himself. It’s not about vanity; it’s about showing that he values himself — and maybe, just maybe, showing me that he cares about the effort I put into looking nice for him.

Whenever we go out, it’s like he doesn’t even try. Flip-flops to a family gathering? Yep, that’s happened more than once. A wrinkled T-shirt with old sneakers? You bet. I’ve tried talking to him about it, but he just brushes it off like it’s no big deal. I understand that he’s comfortable, but there are times when I feel like I’m the only one putting in any effort.

The thing is, it’s not that I’m embarrassed — I’m past that. I’ve accepted him for who he is, but I can’t help but wonder if a little attention to his appearance might make me feel special, like he’s trying to impress me in the same way I try to impress him. It’s those small gestures that make a relationship feel alive, you know?

I know it sounds petty, and maybe it is. But I also can’t help but notice the way other men look at me when we’re out. I’m not blind — I’ve had my share of attention from men who are, well, better dressed, well-groomed, and frankly, more attractive. It’s not like I want anything to happen, but sometimes I catch myself imagining what it would be like to have someone show that kind of interest in me.

It’s just tempting sometimes, you know? But despite all the attention I get, I stay faithful. I love my husband, and I believe in our relationship, but sometimes it would be nice if he could see that a little effort can go a long way — not just for him, but for me too.

I guess it’s just one of those things that I keep quietly to myself, hoping that maybe one day, he’ll understand the little things that matter.