Author: Sarah Miller

Date: April 27, 2025

I’m married, 31 years old, and I find myself feeling more and more disconnected from my husband. We don’t have intimacy anymore. It’s been a while, and when we do try, it’s over so quickly—within 20 or 30 seconds. I don’t even get the chance to feel anything, and it leaves me feeling unfulfilled and confused. I’ve tried talking about it with him, but nothing ever really changes.

In the midst of all this, I’ve found myself developing a crush on my colleague. I don’t know if it’s just a distraction or if it’s something more, but I can’t help how I feel. One day, he asked me to lunch, and I agreed. I was at the office, so it felt like a casual thing. After lunch, he suggested we drop my groceries off at home, and I said yes without thinking. He was being kind, and when we arrived, I invited him in for a quick chat. We hung out for a few minutes, had some snacks, and then we left.

Since that day, I’ve been overthinking everything. Was he just being friendly? Or was there something more there? Did I misread the situation? He didn’t act like it was anything special, but maybe I’m reading too much into it because I’m starved for affection. I can’t help but wonder if he might be interested in me, or if I’m just imagining things. It’s all so confusing, and I don’t know where to go from here.

It feels wrong to even think about someone else, especially with my marriage the way it is. But at the same time, I can’t shake this feeling. Am I just overthinking, or was there something in his actions that meant more?